Learning how to practice Heart Coherence

 

For two weeks now I have had the pleasure of practising Heart Coherence thanks to being introduced to it via a wonderful new 12-week course I have started.  Since I have been doing this practice I have seen my life blossom in so many ways. My joy, optimism and creativity are palpable.  And this is in such a contrast to where I was for the previous few months.

It’s fair to say that this winter was quite a dark one for me.  My mum underwent rather radical treatment for cancer but, thankfully, is now calling herself a cancer survivor.  However one of my dearest friends was not so lucky.  After a very brave and stoical battle, she lost her fight to a very rare form of cancer which only affects one in six million people.

Despite my spiritual, self-care and kinesiology practices, I could not keep myself up.  I was diagnosed with depression but that diagnosis never really felt apt.  I just felt overloaded, super stressed and embroiled in a very deep grieving process.

I have always been opposed to many forms of traditional medicine so I staunchly chose not to medicate with antidepressants.  Instead, I chose kinesiology plus counselling.  I can’t say that the first counsellor helped very much but then I chose another one who was so much more in alignment with my own personal values and beliefs.  This was the beginning of my path back to emotional wellbeing.

What has taken me to beyond just feeling good to feeling like life really is something special is the practice of Heart Coherence.  It’s such a beautifully simple and quick process.  It only takes three minutes.  Here’s how it goes.

Sit yourself down, close your eyes and take three deep breaths.  Put two fingers of one hand in the centre of your chest.  Think about events or picture images of things which truly give you feelings of joy, gratitude and appreciation.  This can be as simple as imagining the sun on your face.  Now put your whole hand on your heart and sit with these feelings for three minutes.  When you’re ready, give your toes and fingers a bit of a wriggle and open your eyes.

This practice was developed by the good folk at the HeartMath Institute. Check out this video by them on YouTube. <iframe width=”560″ height=”315″ src=”https://www.youtube.com/embed/QdneZ4fIIHE” frameborder=”0″ allow=”autoplay; encrypted-media” allowfullscreen>

I’d love to hear about your experiences of doing Heart Coherence.  Please share below and shout out if you have any questions.

A heart shape cut out of bushes.
Practising Heart Coherence has changed my life.

Much love to you from me,

Anna xxx

 

 

Inner Brilliance

We’re all born with inner brilliance but how are you going with displaying it now?  And by inner brilliance, I mean your beautiful ability to shine and sparkle, content with who you are and what you’re doing.

When you spend time with a baby, his or her inner brilliance is on display to all the world.  They don’t shy away from it or cover it up.  They are radiant with it. They grin, gurgle and know that they are wonderful.

I know that I have been sometimes challenged in displaying my inner light over the last few months.  Modern day life, with lots of rushing and different pressures, can sometimes drain your inner brilliance. Self-doubt, that destroyer of inner peace and comparing yourself to others in business, house size, etc can also take their toll. Taking life too seriously is also a good dampener of inner brilliance.

So what can you do to shine and sparkle some more? Here are my four top tips.

  • Make sure you spend time each day doing something you love.  It doesn’t have to take long.  Maybe it’s patting your pet, tickling your child or having a well earned cuppa.  One of my favourite activities is reveling in the beauty of mother nature.
  • Trust that you have inner brilliance even if you can’t see or feel it.  Look within, through meditation or checking in to find it. Work on building it up and radiating it out.
  • Be ever so kind to yourself.  Be your own cheerleader.
  • Trust that all is well, even though you could view it differently.

I have found that having kinesiology sessions has always helped me to shift less than helpful negative patterns or thoughts.  If you think it might help you, give me a call on 0416 733 834 for a chat.

Much love and belief in your inner brilliance,

Anna xxx

How to Stop Giving Away Your Personal Power

Standing in your personal power takes dedication and vigilance.  It’s all too easy to unwittingly give your power away.  This can be done in personal relationships, in business and in day to day life.

It can happen through feelings of insecurity, dwelling on the past, focusing on lack or playing the nice girl who doesn’t want to claim what is hers.  Have I been there? Hell, yes.  But these days when I catch myself doing so I tend to pay attention and work on changing it.

Please remember that exercising or standing in your personal power is a lot like flexing a muscle, the more you do it, the stronger it will become. 

Photo by Sarah Cervantes on Unsplash.

Is there an area of your life where you feel you are playing it small?  If you answered yes, you might like to try the following easy steps.

  1. The first step is not to berate yourself but approach it from a self-loving, self-honouring perspective. e.g “I notice I’m playing it small here.  This is not my natural state.  I am powerful.”
  2. Acknowledge what you are contributing to the situation and make a choice if you want to change it.  It can be as easy as saying, “I am taking my power back from…(situation, person or self-sabotage)
  3.  See yourself standing tall and proud and maintaining your energetic boundaries.  One practice I do is when I imagine sending my energy to the eight corners of the space I am.  I feel my chest expanding as I push the energy out. I also direct my energy downwards into the earth to feel grounded at the same time.
  4. Put your hands on your solar plexus chakra (below your ribs) which will strengthen it and allow you to better exert your peaceful power.
  5. You can also try adopting a power inducing yoga pose, such as Warrior Pose or make up your own.  Pretend you’re Superman or just stand with your hands firmly on your waist. Try it for two minutes a day.  Some primary schools in Melbourne even make this part of their students’ daily routine.
  6. Be your own unshakeable support person.  Don’t hold back on giving yourself a pep talk.
  7. Recognise that you always have a choice.  If you feel that you need to remove yourself from a situation or person to maintain your integrity do so.

Reaching Out for Help

In this fast paced world, where there can be multiple things (or children) screaming for your attention at the one time, it’s crucial to reach out for help if and when you need it. 

Nearly two years ago, I was actually so miserable, disconnected and feeling alone, that I took steps to leave this earth. I fervently believed that death had to be easier than what I was experiencing here and that my children would somehow be okay without me. Madness? Yes, I see that now.

As a write this, I’m wondering if any of you will now be condemning me as a mother and declaring me not worthy of having children.

So what happened?  Did I change my mind?  Not really.  Let’s just say that the universe intervened and I realised that my place is here, alongside my beautiful kids.

You might also be asking if I actually love my children?  The answer is an unequivocal, “Yes”.  I love them with every fibre of my being and they know that.

So how could I contemplate leaving them?  I actually thought they might be better off with a new mum.  A mum who wasn’t tired much of the time, cranky and lost.

Thank goodness I am no longer in that same fragile state. Yeah, I still get tired and cranky but I no longer feel that life is just too hard to bear.

I’m actually nervous about posting this piece.  I’ve only told one friend and two practitioners about that ever so dark blip in my mothering journey but I feel I have an important message to share.

I get it that everyone has personal challenges and that life is really busy for them. But for someone to contemplate checking out there must have been outward signs.  Do I have good, close friends and family?  Absolutely. And did I talk to them about all of this? Not entirely.

Sure some people knew I was not in a happy space but I actually did not want to trouble my two closest friends, with the absolute seriousness of what was going on.  I figured that they had enough to worry about.

So what is my message?  I’m asking you, if you’ve read this far, to look around your own group of family and friends.  See if there’s anyone who might need some help, a break or an ear to bend. Don’t just dismiss them as someone who is down and not much fun to be around.

For goodness sake, reach out to them.  And I don’t mean by text. And please don’t ask a parent how they are feeling in front of their children (people are very good at putting on a brave face).

Go out for a coffee and talk face to face.  And if you feel inclined to help in some way, don’t just ask, “Is there anything I can do?”  If you see that they are not coping in some way and may need a break, INSIST on them accepting your helping.  Make it easy for them to say yes.

I’m actually blown away by the absolute kindness of a new school friend (another sole parent) who has offered to mind my kids for an upcoming weekend. My first reaction was that I couldn’t possibly do this but she was quite clear that I had no choice. “You WILL be having a weekend off.  And I WILL nag you until you choose a date.”  Bless her.

This will be my second weekend off without the kids, for fun and not study, in nearly 10 years. Hallelujah. I am feeling very, very lucky, supported, grateful and blessed.  And I’m looking forward to either returning the favour or paying it forward.

This seems a bit trite to tack on the end of this piece but if you are feeling that life is just too hard, please take the step to talk to someone about it.  I actually chose, the non-medication route but if that is what you need please go and talk to your doctor. There is no shame in saying that you need help.  It actually takes more courage to admit that you need it. You might also like to check out Beyond Blue at https://www.beyondblue.org.au.

For me, kinesiology helped enormously. If you called to work with me, please feel free to phone me for a confidential and extremely non-judgemental chat. I have stood where you are standing and I’m so happy to say I have not only survived but am now beginning to thrive.