How to Stop Giving Away Your Personal Power

Standing in your personal power takes dedication and vigilance.  It’s all too easy to unwittingly give your power away.  This can be done in personal relationships, in business and in day to day life.

It can happen through feelings of insecurity, dwelling on the past, focusing on lack or playing the nice girl who doesn’t want to claim what is hers.  Have I been there? Hell, yes.  But these days when I catch myself doing so I tend to pay attention and work on changing it.

Please remember that exercising or standing in your personal power is a lot like flexing a muscle, the more you do it, the stronger it will become. 

Photo by Sarah Cervantes on Unsplash.

Is there an area of your life where you feel you are playing it small?  If you answered yes, you might like to try the following easy steps.

  1. The first step is not to berate yourself but approach it from a self-loving, self-honouring perspective. e.g “I notice I’m playing it small here.  This is not my natural state.  I am powerful.”
  2. Acknowledge what you are contributing to the situation and make a choice if you want to change it.  It can be as easy as saying, “I am taking my power back from…(situation, person or self-sabotage)
  3.  See yourself standing tall and proud and maintaining your energetic boundaries.  One practice I do is when I imagine sending my energy to the eight corners of the space I am.  I feel my chest expanding as I push the energy out. I also direct my energy downwards into the earth to feel grounded at the same time.
  4. Put your hands on your solar plexus chakra (below your ribs) which will strengthen it and allow you to better exert your peaceful power.
  5. You can also try adopting a power inducing yoga pose, such as Warrior Pose or make up your own.  Pretend you’re Superman or just stand with your hands firmly on your waist. Try it for two minutes a day.  Some primary schools in Melbourne even make this part of their students’ daily routine.
  6. Be your own unshakeable support person.  Don’t hold back on giving yourself a pep talk.
  7. Recognise that you always have a choice.  If you feel that you need to remove yourself from a situation or person to maintain your integrity do so.

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