The story of not being good enough is an oldie but not a goodie. It is a reoccurring theme that I hear from quite a few clients and people in conversation. It’s something we all too often say about ourselves and leave unquestioned.
This has left me wondering where it comes from? Is it from being compared to a brighter sibling during our early years? Does it come from seeing others outperform you professionally? Or could it possibly be a self-inflicted torture from being unforgiving towards ourselves when we make a so-called mistake?
I know I am sometimes challenges by the thought that I am not a good enough …. (insert a social role of choice). But I remind myself that this is just an age old, universal story not grounded in truth. And who was I comparing myself to in the first place?
You are exactly where you need to be
Comparing yourself to others is a true destroyer of well being. It can cut you to the quick. But what if you accept the premise that you are exactly where you need to be, not where you think you should be? This can be beautifully liberating if you let it.
What if we could just accept that we are perfect as we are? Not broken or dysfunctional but just fine. I love the concept of being divinely perfect. It means we can still have perceived flaws or struggles but essentially we’re perfect just for being ourselves. And this makes you and me enough,yes, perfectly good enough.
Anna xxx
I love that, thank you. I agree with this, and I feel that being a parent to 3 beautiful children it is really important to show them how to look after themselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I say to mine that the most important thing is to love yourself and care for yourself. I am working on this, as my actions speak far louder than words. I love the quote at the end there, too. Thanks for sharing. X
You’re so welcome Kate. It’s often a challenge for mothers to put themselves first but it is so necessary. Even telling your kids that you need a 20 minute break can show them how you are looking after yourself. xxx